“Highly competent psychiatrists who have dealt with us have found it sometimes impossible to persuade an alcoholic to discuss his situation without reserve. Strangely enough, wives, parents and intimate friends usually find us even more unapproachable than do the psychiatrist and the doctor.
But the ex-problem drinker who has found this solution, who is properly armed with facts about himself, can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic in a few hours. Until such an understanding is reached, little or nothing can be accomplished.“
–Alcoholics Anonymous, p.18.
This is why it’s entirely useless for an addict to go talk to a therapist or a doctor about their drug problem. Therapists and doctors don’t know what to say and they don’t know what to do. They can’t instill confidence in us and they can’t offer us a solution (that actually works).
Therapists, doctors and addiction counselors don’t instill any confidence in us because they have not used and felt the way we did. Some counselors may have, but their problem is that they are not armed with the solution. They cannot lay down the path to freedom for us, the path to God.
If you haven’t used and felt they way I have, if you cannot accurately describe the alcoholic mind, then you have no business trying to help me with my addiction and I have no business listening to you. If all you have to offer is text book nonsense and propaganda, a prescription for suboxone or an injection of vivitrol, then you’re in the wrong business. And the same goes for you counselors. If all you have to offer is relapse prevention, trigger identification, group therapy and skits, then you have no business working with addicts. By the way, triggers don’t exist. Breathing is a trigger.
So if you are truly suffering, do yourself a favor and find a recovered alcoholic/addict to take you through the first 164 pages of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Yes, AA is a book – a text book that describes how to take Steps, which is how we recover from alcoholism. The “program” is little more than a set of spiritual actions. The fellowship is simply meant to bring this solution to others in humility and good will.
God, please help me become willing to trust, grow and change…