The reason alcoholics and addicts don’t get better is very simple:
They don’t want to change.
Sure, some may think they want to change or cry out that they’ve had enough and must change, but real change is quite different and quite dramatic. Real change refers to not simply wanting to be sober, but wanting to change the people we are, wanting to change the course of our entire lives. And this is why so many never get better. They either don’t really want to change, or they want to change, but not completely.
To recover, we have to be willing to drop everything, to rearrange everything, and to completely uproot ourselves if that’s what it takes. We must be willing to do an entirely different type of job, to sever relationships or to cultivate relationships, to sacrifice our time, to do what we may not want to do, to never ignore our conscious and to never ignore another addict who is reaching out for help.
To recover, we essentially have to do any fucking thing it takes, which is why the Big Book so eloquently states just that.
“If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it – then you are ready to take certain steps.”
– Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 58
God, help me to continue to want to change and grow spiritually, not simply be sober…