The list below is by no means exhaustive, as every TPA post is intended to be useful for both addicts and parents or spouses, but these were the result of some direct question or concern…
How Does One Love from a Distance?
Who Teaches Addicts if Sane People Don’t?
A Message to Parents and Spouses
An Allergy and a Mental Obsession
Relapse Is NOT Part of Recovery
Why I Promote the Steps and the Moral/Spiritual Solution
Trust Me, The Root of Our Problem Is Selfishness
Elements of a Narcissist & the Victim Mentality
Hitting Bottom
Boy, Have We Lost Our Way…
Methadone & Powerlessness
God Isn’t a Concept
Never Give Up
Addiction & Recovery
Let’s Stop Denying the Moral Failure of Addiction
Addicts are Cowards
The Privileged Addict, pp. 154-55
Sorry Folks, We’re Not Sad Little Children
Ways of Telling if Your Addict is Recovered
Stigma? Nope, I’m Proud & Grateful
The Privileged Addict: How Not to Help Addicts
Addicts & Alcoholics Will Suck You Dry
To Parents, Spouses & Codependents
Nature Knows Best
Pray for Those We Resent
Couples Therapy
Don’t Care How You Feel & Don’t Care What You Believe
Excuses of an Addict
Addiction Neuroscientists Should Talk to Some Moms
Do You Really Want to Recover?
Beyond Addiction or Beyond Bullshit?
thank you charlie. this is getting bookmarked. x
thank you charlie. this is getting bookmarked. x
Thank you so very much for this, Charlie. I've read most of these already but it's wonderful to have them all listed together like this.
Reading through some of these old posts, I feel so grateful to you for helping me to understand the way things are with addicts. I've read so much material on addiction that seems to make sense at first, but in the end it doesn't really explain the way things truly are. Some websites about addiction make it sound like the addict is an innocent victim of a terrible disease, poor them. Your blog is the only place I have found that actually describes my partner EXACTLY. The things you say about addicts and addiction match my experiences with my partner EXACTLY. How is it possible that all the “experts” out there miss the fact that addicts are mind-blowingly SELFISH? That they treat other people like shit? That nothing really matters to them at all but their own comfort and pleasure? Like, isn't this an important part of the picture? It sure is if you live with one of these people.
Anyway, I'm rambling. Really I just want to say thank you, sincerely. You've made the whole mess clear to me. Nothing is any easier but at least I don't feel confused any longer. God bless you.
Charlie – I am working my way through your list. As a parent, the guilt is overwhelming. It gives me hope that IIIII am not the one who is insane, b/c that is how I feel most of the time. TY for that and for your blog and this list.
Anything for you, Janet. xo
Hey thank you so much, and God bless you too.
You are so welcome. Thanks for reading.
Ditto everyone above!
Thank you, Liz! Grateful.
Charlie…you are a brave, bright, loving soul, and I am proud to know you for a multitude of reasons…xoxo glp 🙂
You have no idea how touched I am by this, let alone your tireless support and help (after all these years). Grateful. You are awesome, :D. xoxox