I want to thank you for your honesty. I truly believe that it takes much more than just being sober to recover. You have helped so many family members gain insight into the addict . This insight allows us to stop the enabling. If one thing is true – the addict does not care about anything except their addiction. I suffered a silent heart attack in the midst of some of my addict’s drama last weekend. He has not even asked if I am okay. Instead he said we were terrible parents, that his son will hate us forever and that if we come to his house he will have us arrested. Why all this drama? Because we insisted he could not just take his son without being drug tested. In the end I am no longer talking to him. I told him in a text that I am done. So I am in day 9 of my withdrawal from his insanity. Thank you again for sharing your life. May God bless you and your family.
Thank you for reaching out and God bless you. I have been touched and affected by this comment, and I’m thinking about you and praying. I will also pray for your son tonight during my prayers, that he in fact becomes even more hopeless as a means of breaking through the delusion and the great wall of denial, as a means of seeing some self-truth deep within, and most important of all, to see the terror of the abyss below and come face to face with a fear that might propel him to reach out with everything he has and grab onto the spiritual solution. If only we could feel the effects of our actions and reactions…
The insanity of addiction is that reason and (real) love is met with insanity, chaos and drama. This is how we lay the bridge for others to cross into our deranged worlds… and yes, it is indeed heartbreaking. That said, what you are doing necessitates great courage, strength and faith. And yes, engaging with insanity does not serve anyone. We can never go wrong with what our gut tells us is the right, responsible and sane thing. We can never go wrong with what our deep, God-given wisdom and intuition tells us to do (namely protect your grandchildren etc).
I hope you are feeling better and remain in good health.