If Your Sober Alcoholic or Addict is Still a Narcissist, He is Still Completely Insane

Narcissism is rampant in America today, and in particular, infantile narcissism has exploded with the advent of “woke” culture, which is by every measure the epitome of ignorance and juvenile stupidity. And you thought narcissism was limited to the alcoholic or the drug addict. That said, the addict is a terrific microcosm of America today, as he displays the worst and most extreme end of childish behavior. Carrying narcissism into recovery, for instance, is the greatest telltale sign the addict has accomplished nothing in treatment. Drying out for a few weeks in detox and/or rehab is less than a percent of the work necessary to recovery, change into a better person and alter the course of a life. And truthfully, the person we are and our spiritual condition is the crux of the problem.

Once in a while my grandfather calls regarding one of my alcoholic cousins. He will periodically dry out for a few days and make some phone calls to display his great clarity and well being. And every time my grandfather rings me up to tell my how well my cousin sounds, I have to explain the same concept. There is no in-between. We are either completely okay or not at all. When a person is insane and absent a conscience, physical sobriety alone accomplishes nothing. Physical sobriety is simply a clinical requirement before embarking on a lifetime of spiritual and moral action. And so it is all or nothing with us. We are either completely insane or we have become sane. The sane person does not relapse, is under no threat to relapse, and does not continue to behave like a pathetic addict. The good news is that the condition of insanity of many addicts is, or can be, temporary. That is, his loss of willpower and insanity can be restored. However, for that to occur, he or she MUST be capable of self-honesty, and sadly, those who are not capable will not and cannot get better. Remember that. They are hopeless. They are psychopaths. But even those with grave mental and emotional maladies can recover completely if they can become honest with themselves.

So if your addict or your alcoholic returns from rehab and continues to behave like a child, he or she is the exact same person as when they left. If they are consumed by their needs and their feelings, they are no better at all. If they are consumed by their former lives, they are no better. If they continue to whine and complain about this person and that person, they are no better. If they continue to blame everyone and everything that they falsely think makes them suffer and use and drink, they are no better. If they continue to hold onto their selfishness, they are no better. If they continue to scheme and design and manipulate and control the world and others around them, they are no better. If they continue to react and become defensive, proud and critical, they are no better. If they continue to think about themselves and their lives 24/7, they are still completely insane.

Any addict who meets this description has done nothing while away in treatment, if you dare to even call it that now. Conversely, an addict or alcoholic who has recovered has been touched. He or she has, by their effort and by the power of God, induced a profound psychic change. He or she has had a spiritual experience, and following this experience, the entirety of negative, delusional, selfish and destructive attitudes, notions, beliefs and patterns of behaving and reacting have been cast aside and replaced with a new set based on spiritual principles and God. You would know with haste if your addict was truly okay. He would be glowing with Spirit. His face, body and posture would look different. His eyes would look grounded, calm and sane. A fire has been lit inside the recovered individual and by his words and actions, it would be unmistakable. He no longer reacts like a selfish child. He no longer whines and complains and blames the world. He is positive and confident and reaches out to help his family, his friends, and anyone else in need.

Sadly, rehabs today have become progressive gulags. The addict is poisoned with victimhood and disease model propaganda. He is coddled beyond belief and is lied to about the truth of personal responsibility and accountability. Remember this: We make ourselves into who and what we have become. Nothing external causes us to drink, use, lie, steal, manipulate, abuse, whine, complain and fail. Nothing external causes our addiction and depression. We alone are to blame for our lives. Do not let evil lies infect you or your addict. Tell the addict the truth. Tell them what they have done and who they have become. And for the love of God, do not blame yourself for the addiction of another. This is my next book, by the way. It will be addressed to the millions of parents, spouses and families who falsely blame themselves for the addiction of a loved one. It will cut through the lies of the delusional and ignorant left and will hopefully put an end to the false belief that addiction has any other cause but ourselves and our actions. It will also tell the truth about what lies underneath addiction and why the only solution is to change the person we have become through rigorous and consistent moral action.

God, please teach us to live by Your principles… 

Just Because the Media Successfully Terrorized & Brainwashed You, That Is Not an Excuse to Drink, Use Drugs or Wallow in Depression

Addiction and alcoholism seem secondary at best in an age where we have to be bullied by the deranged ideology of radical liberalism in which Dr. Seuss gets banned for absolutely no reason whatsoever (few things in life are more insufferable than phony, virtue-signaling progressives), or where we are subjected to the well-coordinated communist takeover and the psychopathology of the current triumvirate and their self-righteous, citizen minions in which we are stripped of our God-given freedom and human rights. But because we find ourselves in the midst of absolute tyranny, we should address the issue of addiction and lockdowns… Continue reading

Early Privileged Addict Quotes – From TPAQ Chapter 1


“Recovery is not a function of time. It is a function of what actions we take and at what frequency we take them.”


“Recovery is not an exercise in assessing what others did to us. It is an exercise in assessing what we did to others.”


“Achieving physical sobriety is not an accomplishment, it is a requirement.Becoming recovered from alcoholism or drug addiction is not an accomplishment, it is our responsibility.”


“Resentments are like acid to the seeing eye. They burn and blind us so that we cannot see clearly.”


“We make amends for the object of our amends, not to clear our conscience.” Continue reading

The Status Quo Treatment Centers of Today are Based on Lies, Relapse and More Drugs… and are a Total Disservice to Our Loved Ones

Aside from the current worldwide coup against the people, one great travesty and disservice of today is the prevalence of useless, insurance-funded treatment centers. You might as well spend 30 days getting brainwashed by social justice warriors who preach victimhood as if it is a new religion. What pains me is that the very teeth have been taken out of recovery, and worse, God has been taken out of AA. There is no AA without God, as the very conception and purpose of AA is to teach the sick man or woman a set of spiritual actions in order to bring him or her closer to God. So I’m not exactly sure what the fuck secular AA means, but logically speaking, the term is a textbook oxymoron. Continue reading

Until We Change Who We Are Through Moral Action, There Is No Recovery

Drugs and alcohol are just a side-show. We are not getting better from drug and alcohol addiction but from the person we have become. We become addicts through selfish action, so we logically recover through unselfish action.


Charlie, You speak the truth. Your message and approach is spot on. I recently read your two books and many of your blog posts. I’m an alcoholic who just got sober a month ago. I’m in A.A. and working the steps. I’m 38 years old, married, father of two with a good career, but have been an immature and selfish person my whole life. I got to the point where I couldn’t stand the person I had become. I hated myself for being such a weak person in many areas of my life. I let fear, misguided resentments, and self seeking behavior rule my life. I love how you lay out a plan of ACTION. I’m jumping in and giving the steps my all. I’m figuring it out as I go, but I’m moving forward. I have no interest in just sitting around in meetings without advancing through the steps with purpose and urgency. I understand that what I want is on the other side of the necessary actions that are uncomfortable and intimidating. I’ve reconnected locally with an old timer with 25 years of sobriety who is a no BS guy to help me with questions and to give me some guidance when needed. But I know it’s on me to take the right action. Let me know if there are any groups/people you recommend I connect with too. I live in Southern CA but like to meet as many like minded people as I can. I wish you all the best man. And thanks for telling it like it is. It’s a breath of fresh air and it’s just the truth. It really resonated with me and got me going down the right path. -Cole

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