Parents sometimes write me stuff like,

     “My son has this great job, so he can only do outpatient because he has to get back to work on Monday… oh, and they can’t know anything, so do know a really good place he can go for like three days tops?”

     Good luck with that.  Or how about this one,

     “He’s in school right now and even though he is drinking like a fish everyday, school is really good for him, so he can’t go away for more than a long weekend, or maybe you could just take him to a couple meetings after class.”

     You want me to take him to a meeting and drop him back off at school? Lol. I know of several parents who support their addicts with college tuition and allowance etc. when he or she is getting jammed non-stop and couldn’t give two shits about anything.

     I was asked to help another addict who refused to do certain things or live at a sober house because of the “riff-raff.” Really? If he dislikes the sober house because the population is economically, intellectually or ethnically diverse and makes him uncomfortable, that is without question the best thing for him. He should be bagging groceries at Stop & Shop, not whining about the riff-raff from his dorm room at Brown. Being a little snob is not a recipe for successful recovery. Sorry.

     I also heard this one recently,

     “He has a really nice girlfriend and he should keep that up, so I think going away would put a damper on the relationship. Can you talk to him? But don’t call him at home because his girlfriend might answer.” 

     As if any worldly thing whatsoever takes priority over becoming fundamentally recovered for the rest of our lives.

     If we fail to get better, there is no point to anything as we will inevitably fail and lose everything anyway. I don’t get it. Nothing matters if we don’t recover wholly and comprehensively. Nothing matters if our minds are still broken and we are subject to relapse at any point in time and for no reason at all. If the obsession isn’t lifted and there is no psychic change, if there is no fundamental rearrangement of guiding principles, beliefs and attitudes, all will be lost regardless. The job, the girlfriend, school? All gone. The only hope for an addict to have any decent life is for him or her to do whatever it takes to become recovered. Yes, anything. Do you see?

     And if suddenly they want to quit their job and go help others instead, you should pray to God with gratitude, because that means the addict is truly okay inside. It means the fire has been lit and he or she cares more about their spiritual health than they do about desperately holding on and grasping to some fleeting worldly temptation. All of those things we think we need to be okay, well, we don’t.

     The only thing that matters is being okay and returning to sanity. Then and only then can we move forward in earnest and rejoin the world productively. Sure we must work hard, get educated, provide and give back vigorously, but nobody can do that if they are completely nuts and broken inside. For the really hopeless alcoholics and addicts, the priority list goes as follows:

     #1 God.

     #2 Everything else.

     Physical, worldly power is the most intoxicating and seductive of drugs. The more power, the more possessed one becomes with self-worship, which is, by the way, the doctrine of satanism. So it would be fair to characterize those with the most power – the morons who run the country, the potus, the fed’s member banks, the IMF, BIS, CFR, etc. as some of the most dangerous souls on earth. They are perhaps the greatest threat to mankind that exists, along with the ideologues and the fundamentalist psychopaths.

     The second most dangerous worldly condition is cowardice, i.e. the rest of us. The people who hold the most power only hold it because the rest of the world, the ‘sheeple’, empower them. The masses of cowards give those in power their power. Therefore, external power is not necessarily real, it is simply a condition or construct we invent that can vanish as quickly as a vapor will suddenly disappear. Power is not a tangible or permanent thing. It is the greatest human illusion that exists, besides fear. It is only real because we believe it to be real, and it is only obtained and maintained through the power of suggestion and the gullible masses who will believe anything.

    So please remember this when you obey, conform, follow and fear those in power, for you are simply bowing to another idiot who defecates just like you and only believes he is important in his head. We are but tiny little specs of ignorance in the scope of Creation and beyond. There is nothing to fear. If you have lost your own small bit of power, then take it back. If you know something is right in your heart but it happens to be against the laws or rules of some tyrant, take back your power and do it anyway. If you know something is wrong but it is demanded by the tyrant, refuse to do it. How ironic that intellectual dissent is now considered to be treasonous in the land of the free. We have somehow procured loads of false human power to a handful of economically and historically illiterate narcissists and all we have to do to dissolve this structure is simply to think, speak and act for ourselves.

     We must also preserve and protect our families and the idea of family, as when families dissolve, the people lose control and that is just what those in power desire.

     I had a conversation the other day with a friend who was determined to convince me that we don’t own ourselves. This sort of media-driven, collectivist propaganda is becoming mainstream today… and it is some of the most dangerous thinking known to mankind. This is when people become slaves and those in power see themselves as saviors, become somewhat genocidal and say things like, “I’m really good at killing people [with drones].” We must never drink this sort of Kool Aid and give up ourselves and our freedom in the name of this degenerate doctrine of failure, envy and entitlement. It is simply a ruse for a handful of elite to maintain power by extracting all of it from everybody else… along with your wealth, time, energy, freedom, privacy, you name it.

     And needless to say, those of us who are the most productive and work the hardest will undoubtedly be the most screwed. Fraud and failure are now rewarded while success and productivity are punished. Power is the most dangerous game there is. If you jump in, try not to immediately sell your soul to the devil, as one day you may reap what you sow when the angry masses come and rip you apart.

Armstrong Economics

     We addicts somehow believe that our experience is novel. We believe that NOBODY suffers quite like we do, that nobody feels depression and despair and dissatisfaction the way we do. We believe ourselves to be special and unique and different from everybody else, even other addicts. Believe it or not, I actually believed there wasn’t a single soul who understood or felt what I felt, that I somehow had it the worst…

     …and believing such bullshit made it very convenient to do anything it took to make myself feel different. I believed that I had a divine right to keep myself comfortable 24/7 by drinking and using drugs because nobody experienced pain and discomfort as I did.

  
     “Common wheat harvest protocol in the United States is to drench the wheat fields with Roundup several days before the combine harvesters work through the fields as the practice allows for an earlier, easier and bigger harvest.”

     Janet’s blog is called, The Gardener’s Cottage, loved and followed by many, and the specific post about chemicals is: Detoxing my home. 

     Someone sent me this article recently about the “opioid crisis.” The media is clever when it comes to manipulating people, but we don’t mince words here, so let’s first uncover the term ‘compassion’ in this headline to be nothing more than a euphemism for more funding, more government programs, more heroin shoot-up sites, more free methadone, more free stuff. The truth? None of that will even begin to touch the problem. 100% useless.

     If we really want to have compassion on addicts, perhaps we should stop robbing them of the solution. Perhaps we should stop taking the teeth out of recovery in the already existing programs. Perhaps we should suggest that programs teach addicts the truth – that drugs and alcohol are merely a sideshow, that they must fundamentally change from deep within and adopt an entirely new set of principles and often a whole new life purpose. Perhaps we should stop robbing addicts of the spiritual solution. Perhaps we should stop medicating addicts, as, after all, that is the problem to being with.

     Compassion is not money, government, lobbying and self-seeking. Compassion is strength and humility. What good is more funding if the programs are impotent and the addicts remain internally destitute? Teach them to have compassion on themselves by walking through fear, by vigorously pursuing health, strength, success, responsibility and hard work so we may learn to have compassion on others. It is addicts who need to learn compassion on others, not others who need to learn compassion on addicts.

     Addicts make themselves addict. The disease is not something you just wake up with one day. That is a destructive and dangerous attitude. It is also wrong. If you want to call it a disease, fine, but it is a disease that we gave to ourselves. We mutated ourselves ‘into’ addicts and ‘out of’ compassion. What a ridiculous and clueless assumption that it is a lack of tax dollars and federal laws that is causing the opioid crisis, especially when you consider that most “opiate” users, such as prescription drugs like OxyContin are middle, upper-middle and affluent rich kids, otherwise known as snobs. Funding is not the problem. The problem is most certainly personal. 

     Only so far as we have become an indifferent, apathetic and Godless culture (that has lost respect for the institution of family) is this true, but the lack of compassion on the opiate user himself has 0% to do with why they use. Conversely, compassion will do absolutely nothing to stop an addict from using, nor will it push him or her to get better. Addicts use and recover from within. Nothing external matters. Nothing. Rich or poor, love or abuse, compassion or no compassion. Irrelevant.

     If you want to have a conversation about social issues that may contribute to drug abuse, we can do that, but more laws and funding have nothing to do with it. Those who believe that have taken the bait. As far as the larger problem of cultural and economic decay, well, take your pick as to why people might want to use drugs. For one, moral relativity, the degenerate idea that there is no such thing right and wrong (or rather, if it’s right for me than it’s right) combined with the “I deserve to never suffer” attitude, is causing addicts to have no moral compass. If we believe using drugs is no big deal, it becomes much easier to start using. Nobody tells us anymore the hell we inflict on those who love us. Our spiritual illness is entirely absent today in the coddled nanny state of America where everybody is a victim and nothing is your fault.

     So go ahead, take your pick:

     Lack of purpose. Lack of meaning. Lack of direction. Apathy. Indifference. Entitlement. Dependency. Moral relativity. The nanny state. The welfare state. The ‘Every Kid Gets a Trophy’ mentality. Lack of personal responsibility. Progressive secularism. Failure to grow up, move out of mom & dad’s house and get a job. Culture in decline – Jersey Shore, Kardashians, Teen Mom, etc. Self-indulgence, deviance and pornography in film, television and music. Coddled youth. Skill-less youth.   Despondent youth due to terminal economy and student debt atrocity (guess which administration is responsible for facilitating the student loan debacle?) Offended America. The Police State. Growing lack of personal freedom, economic freedom and free speech…

     … or how about the war on family as no longer sacred, empowering and valuable. The war on God. The decline in standard of living due to the hollowing out of America. The annihilation of the middle class due to socialism. Micro-aggressions and the victim mentality. The dumbing down of American education. The absence of financial IQ in all middle schools, high schools, colleges and even graduate schools. Kids today are taught to fall in line, to be mediocre civil servants, to not take risks, start businesses or be successful. Kids today are taught that success and wealth are evil. This is particularly destructive to the human spirit. Anyway, take your pick. The list goes on and on…

     Trust me, the addict mentality – that nobody quite suffers the way we do, that we should never have to feel pain or discomfort, that everything should be laid our for us, that nothing’s fair and that others are responsible to make sure we feel safe and cozy, to make sure we have a job and a wage we are happy with, to make sure we have access to everything we need, all the time. Sorry folks, but that is LALA LAND. So we should now be subsidized simply for being human? Haven’t enough parents already been wiped out by their own addicted children on program after program, and oh yeah, they relapsed again?

     Please.

    So the addict mentality is really just a microcosm of the cultural mentality we see infecting our society and our country today. This combined with the economic decline and the total lack of confidence in government is going to soon unravel us and lead to a tremendous breakdown. My advice would be to stop drinking whatever Kool-aid one might be drinking and try to accumulate some financial IQ and some actual skill sets… and perhaps adopt a less collectivist and more risk-taking frame of mind. Trust me, I say this for our own sake and for that of future generations. I have children now, whom I adore, so I really don’t give a shit about ruffling some feathers. The truth and pulling back from the brink of the dark ages 2.0 is far more important.

WHY ADDICTS CAN’T STAY SOBER
January 23, 2013

1) The mental obsession. A mere sober addict is still completely insane and subject to relapse. Sober-only addicts will experience thoughts to drink or use that do not respond to ration or reason. We can, however, remove this obsession through spiritual action and achieve lifelong sobriety, free from the danger of relapse. But if we don’t change, if we don’t restore ourselves to sanity and re-acquire the power of choice, we have no chance in hell.

     Usually the removal of such a condition requires divine intervention. To be more accurate, the result of our sincere work and desire to change may induce the power of God to remove our obsession, as man-made remedies simply aren’t capable of such a task. There is no pill nor any expert that can remove this obsession. There is no pill that can make an insane man sane. And most importantly, the addict himself is not capable of removing his obsession. The combination of his insanity and his total loss of willpower leave him incapacitated. If you don’t believe me, feel free to try going from a chronic and hopeless drug addict to completely and utterly free inside for the rest of your life on your own volition. And by free I mean zero urge or desire to self-destruct + inner peace and contentment.

2) We still want to feel good in sobriety. Therefore, everything the addict does after getting sober is simply to feel good or to achieve maximum comfort. If we fail to rid ourselves of this attitude – this comfort addiction and selfish frame of mind – then we have no chance.

3) Happiness, success and normalcy are too unfamiliar. Addicts have complacently adjusted to a status quo of chaos, failure and sabotage. It’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks. However, if an addict is going to make it, he or she must embrace and get used to things working out. Things aren’t suddenly working out because of magic, they’re working out because we’re doing the right thing.

4) Refusing to act morally and to make things right. If we fail to sincerely make our amends to spouses, family, friends, colleagues, institutions and creditors, then we have no chance. We will soon fall spiritually ill and relapse. Furthermore, if we don’t change the way we conduct ourselves on a daily basis, we will rapidly move backwards and become ill. We must change the way we think, speak and act. There is no staying sober without living by spiritual principles and treating others with kindness, love, tolerance and respect (yes, I fail constantly in this department but I try enough to be okay). We must also never ignore requests for our service. If the people in our lives need our help, we must always respond. Failure to do so, failure to become other-centered will crush our conscience once again and we will surely relapse.

     We must also change our approach to adult life and the way we view suffering and discomfort. Finally, we must change the way we see both personal and human responsibility.

5) Failure to continue growing spiritually. If we truly want to change and grow and recover, then we must continue to evolve spiritually. That means we must continue writing inventory and reading it. It means we must continue praying. It means we must continue meditating. It means we must help other addicts when the opportunity presents itself. To remain sane and free from addiction, we must continue to work on not just our outer lives, but our inner lives as well. Stillness, prayer and meditation are crucial for the mind and heart of an addict. Failure to maintain our inner health will also result in eventual relapse.

God, teach me that You love me…

Comment:

     Dear Charlie, I have been married to a recovering alcoholic for 12 years, together for 22 years. When we have been to couples counseling he always gets pats on the back for his alcohol recovery. 6 months ago it came out in a terrible way that he has been using the internet for porn, cyber sex, chatroom sex, phone sex. He had an affair with a coworker to boot. I will spare you the details- but the cyber stuff has been on and off for our whole marriage. The dishonesty is stunning and devastating. His behavior looks like addiction, acts like addiction and has no moral compass like addiction. He wants to do couples therapy. He has convinced his counselor that this is relationship problem. We’ve done this before – and clearly it didn’t change anything– it all got worse. From my point he behaves like an addict and I don’t want to do couples therapy unless he is in recovery- like you write- with his actions. I am not sure if I can reconcile with him or if I want to but I do want to forgive him. I admire Desmond Tutu’s approach to forgiveness- and I like how you are a hard ass about action. Do you have any thoughts or writing on sex addiction and recovery in the context of other addictions? Thank you so much for your strong voice in this field.

Response:

    First, I totally agree with you about therapy. I don’t know why anyone would engage in couples therapy when one of the two is not in recovery. As well, no good therapist would recommend that, unless of course they just need to fill up their time slots to stay in business. 
      
     Many addicts are preoccupied with sex and sexuality, as sexual activity is a selfish act and elicits the same bio-chemical response as do drugs and alcohol (the release of dopamine), so needless to say, most (if not all) drug addicts and alcoholics are also sex addicts. I would prescribe the same thing I would prescribe any addict: a rigorous Twelve Step process, leading to the daily practice of prayer, meditation and spiritual principles. That was basically the purpose of “Anybody Can Take Steps,” for non-addicts and others who suffer from different ailments to use these same tools… that they are universal and should not be hoarded. Below is a brief excerpt from the book about sexual depravity and what have you.

From Anybody Can Take Steps, pp. 124-5, Copyright 2015:

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     This may be uncomfortable, but some people have specifically lost power over sexual misconduct or deviance. As discussed in the first chapter, we can lose power over anything, and sexual misconduct is certainly one such thing. Sexual deviance of any kind is a sign that evil has somehow entered the body and must be exorcised at once. Even pornography and masturbation, as harmless as they may seem, can slowly eat away at the soul and rob us of our vital energy, our inner peace and our love for others. These compulsions will amplify feelings of depression, frustration, angst, irritability and unhappiness. Like an addict or an alcoholic, miserable is the man who becomes addicted to sex or masturbation and relies on it to feel good and fill himself up. The truth is that some of us use sex to replace emptiness and boredom when we are really looking for purpose and meaning. We must take Steps and give our lives over to God. No excuses.”

Comment: 

     Hi Charlie, how do you pray for others? It’s not that I don’t believe in God but it seems that prayers for my daughter and myself are missing something. I don’t feel the connection to God. Is it the same prayer so you can connect more deeply? Is it just anything that comes to your mind? I feel numb after dealing with my daughter’s addiction for the last 14 years.

Response:

     Does praying unselfishly for others always work? Unfortunately, no, but especially if that person is sick, as you are contending with their illness, with their lack of will and power, with the strength of whatever darkness is inside them. However, praying for others does change the energetic dynamic between the two of you, and perhaps between them and God, and we all know that miracles do happen. As well, praying earnestly and unselfishly for someone who is sick will have a positive effect on you. It is real love and any action of real love will work to heal you and help you to let go. Finally, it will keep you closer to God, so that is always a good thing.

 

1) Action begets more action.

     I often feel suffocated by the increasingly clueless establishment view of addiction and recovery. This is why it’s good to unplug once in a while and take extended breaks from media etc., especially when it seems everything is scripted in some way to promote a bias that often benefits the messenger or his friends and is destructive to its recipients. At any rate, there is always some new ‘cutting edge’ approach to addiction, some new miracle drug (oxymoron), some new epiphany that will explain everything and finally fix every addict in the world. Most of the stuff people send me actually gives me a headache. I’ve stated previously that the scientific credo known as Ockham’s Razor (among competing hypotheses, the one with the fewest assumptions should be selected) is now constantly violated. The point is that recovery is very simple, and the secret is really no secret at all. It’s called:

     Hard work.
     Yup, that’s it. But let me briefly explain why. The addict’s problem is most certainly internal and related to his total lack of will and the accompanying self-pity etc. etc. and on and on. Therefore, there is no easy way out. Sorry. We addicts and alcoholics must manually undo the damage we have done. We must act our way out. No external approach will create motivation within the addict. Nothing external will light that fire. Only the addict himself can light that fire by finally getting off of his ass and taking action. And then once an action has been taken, it simultaneously dissolves his self-absorption and restores his will. In doing so, action begets more action. And then more action begets even more action. That is how you recover. The better you want to get (and the better you want to feel), the more action you will take. There is no recovery without right, productive, moral action… and lots of it.

2) Unselfish prayer is a powerful action and yes, it actually works.

     Younger sponsees often complain about the ineffectiveness of prayer. They need to be reminded that God is not Santa Claus. Prayer is only effective if the prayer is unselfish. Sure it can be for ourselves, but only for us to strengthen or effect us in some way such that we become more useful or loving to others. As well, purely unselfish prayer (i.e. praying for others) actually changes the fabric of the universe. It shifts reality. I know this first hand as I have witnessed sudden effects (such as a complete change of heart or the sudden will to make a decision) in others after praying for them deeply and earnestly. Anyway, go for it. Pray unselfishly and see what happens.

     Some people have also asked me how do I find people to help. If you wake up and say this prayer and mean it, trust me, people in need will find you and probably within hours.

     “God, please bring me the opportunity to help others.”  

4) Physical sobriety does not remove the mental obsession or restore an addict to sanity.

     Often we addicts and alcoholics try to “white-knuckle” it. That is, we simply achieve physical sobriety and try to move forward. But from point A to point B, nothing has changed. There is no chance in hell that the true alcoholic or addict will remain sober if he or she still has a broken mind – a mind that suffers from the mental obsession to drink or use. Addicts and alcoholics are insane people. This is what many do not understand. When you remove the substances, nothing has changed and the addict is walking around subject to relapse at any point in time and for no apparent reason.

     The hopeless addict or alcoholic must be restored to sanity. In other words, the power of choice must be restored. And that will not occur in any addict or alcoholic who continues to do the wrong thing. There is no sanity, and therefore no long-term or good sobriety without also living by spiritual (moral) principles. So you cannot lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, abuse and shamelessly depend on others and expect to stay clean. It just doesn’t work that way. The addict must change as a person.

     The meaninglessness of physical sobriety alone begs the following question: why do we feel proud for achieving physical sobriety, so proud that we opt to receive periodic trophies and congratulations for doing absolutely nothing. We never should have become addicts to begin with, so why is achieving sobriety an accomplishment, let alone getting better? This is precisely why we can liken addicts and alcoholics to children who simply refuse to grow up and still exist in their own little worlds. Addicts are incapable of stepping in the shoes of another, and this is why they appear somewhat sociopathic and cause so much pain to so many.

3) God exists.

     And if you stay focused on your relationship with God and your spiritual growth (i.e. taking care of yourself and others mentally, emotionally and physically), you will always be okay. You will always be free. It’s not fluff to say that addiction is more of a spiritual problem than anything else, and that recovery is mystical. I don’t find it confusing at all why so many fail. They simply haven’t been taught about the true nature of their addiction and therefore haven’t entered the spiritual realm of recovery. Conventional wisdom and mainstream methods are completely in the dark. It’s so sad.

      But there is a solution. 

 

 
     Took some screenshots for you throughout the week (privileged addict searches omitted). Is anyone out there really going to keep up with the farce that addicts are not morally challenged? Selfishness at the expense of others is a moral failure. Continuing to use once we lose control is a moral failure. I think it’s time to admit what is so glaringly obvious. Hey, don’t take my word for it, listen to the people. See for yourself…

alcoholics anonymous. meeting makers
frothy emotional appeal big book
aa cured vs recovered
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frothy emotional appeal
gift of desperation nonsense
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the addict blames everyone
why do addicted people feel they are [victims]
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recovering alcoholic still playing victim
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why do alcoholics disappear (gee, I wonder)
bipolar disorder hoax
sober forever
what does untreated alcoholism do…
why are alcoholics liars, mean and selfish
why are alcoholics mean
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alcohol hurts other people
alcoholic grandiosity (yup)
alcoholic men and what they think
alcoholic selfishness
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why alcoholics hurt loved ones
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he’s an alcoholic and only worried about [himself]
why are addicts so selfish
why be sober (this guy makes everybody’s point for them)
addict lose girl after hurting feelings 
alcoholic friend never calls criticizes… (right because untreated addicts aren’t capable of friendships, which require giving)
alcoholic husband says he’s not abusive
aa resentment inventory example
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walking away from an alcoholic…
alcoholics selfish
can the false self survive in sobriety? (nope)
alcoholics abandon relationships
should you just accept alcoholics as t… (no, you shouldn’t)
don’t feel comfortable around wife drinking…
selfish addicts
aa 164 self-knowledge
alcoholic thinks about the past
are addicts obnoxious (does the sun rise in the morning?)
why do alcoholics put others down
are recovering alcoholics selfish
why alcoholics treat people like crap
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